As it becomes more evident, at least in my eyes, that Casey Anthony is the only one responsible for the death of her daughter, I want to know WHY? In reading through thousands and thousands of pages of documents, I still can’t find that answer.
I like many others can speculate as to why. We’ve all addressed that issue many times. She wanted freedom, she wanted to pay Cindy back for making her have Caylee, she was tired of being held down by the responsibilities of motherhood. Yet these are only speculations because as we all know Casey won’t even admit to killing Caylee much less tell anyone why she did it.
So, I decided to read a little bit about this and maybe find my own answers. I was amazed to see the difference in how the public sees a woman who has killed her own child as opposed to a man. Many studies have been done on this and I have concluded on my own that we as a society are not able to truly believe that a mother could willingly kill her child. We cannot accept that a mother would even fathom harming her child, and therefore we must find other reasons. Almost always the reason is mental illness. Yet if a father kills his children almost always he is treated a cold calloused killer and the public cries out for justice.
As a whole, women generally only commit two types of crime: 1. Shoplifting 2. MURDERING THEIR OWN CHILDREN
What I found very interesting is that in all of the cases that have been studied over the years, Feminists, Legal Researchers and Scholars have continued to stand by the theory that: Women who murder their own children are ill.
In most cases these women are hospitalized and treated. Yet almost always a father who kills his children is put away for life or executed. Juries in general have shown that they are not willing to hand down a murder conviction, much less a death sentence to a mother.
In all the studies performed, the researchers have done their best to show that these mothers have to be ill. It is believed that by showing mothers who kill their children are crazy, it gives the public comfort. Otherwise it would be unimagineable that a mother could make a rational choice to kill her child.
Women as a whole are not violent creatures and therefore scholars have argued that the majority of mothers who have killed their children suffer from depression, post partum depression or post partum psychosis. They also state that if none of these illness come in to play then there is other mental illness.
The problem with the illness theory is :
- While mental illness can explain “snapping”, it does not explain why it is only twoards their children and not strangers or others.
Therefore to give insight as to why a mother kills her own children the researchers have concluded the following:
Achild is viewed as a mothers property. To destroy ones own property is considered “crazy”, while destroying the property of others is “criminal”.Therefore mothers who kill generally go to a hospital.
The legal system treats a mother who has killed someone elses child as a sociopathic killer, yet shows mercy for a mother who kills her own. The reason for this is: it is easier to convict when harm has been done to someone elses property.
A study was performed in 2002 and the results showed that children under the age of 5 were more likely to be killed by their own parents than a sex crazed outside predator. According to the FBI statistics: Parents were responsible for 57% of the deaths of their children in 1999. Family friends and acquaintances accounted for 30% while other family members accounted for 8%.
According to Michelle Oberman who conducted part of this study : “MURDERING MOTHERS ARE JUST DIFFERENT” The media finds them to be newsworthy, while a father who kills is viewed as an ordinary killer.
The following reasons of why a mother kills are what is concluded after years of research:
- THE CHILD IS UNWANTED
- OUT OF MERCY
- AS A RESULT OF MENTAL ILLNESS
- RETALIATION AGAINST A SPOUSE
- AS A RESULT OF ABUSE
- TO PUNISH THEMSELVES
- TO “ERASE” IN ORDER TO PERSUE A RELATIONSHIP
- ANGRY AT THEMSELVES OR TO DESTROY WHAT THEY HAVE CREATED.
What I did find interesting is that in the cases studied, almost all of the mothers disposed of their children in a “womb like” fashion. They either swaddled them, submerged them in water or wrapped them tightly in plastic.
The National Center For Missing and Exploited Children stated that most children killed by their mothers were always found close to home, while a child killed by the father is generally hundreds of miles away.
The last concluded reason I found for women killing their children is: WOMEN STILL BELIEVE THEY HAVE SOLE DOMINATION OVER SO LITTLE “PROPERTY”, THAT THE DESTRUCTION AND CONTROL OF SOMETHING THAT IS IN FACT THEIR “PROPERTY” SENDS A POWERFUL MESSAGE ABOUT WHO IS REALLY IN CHARGE…
It was kind of creepy to think about these women and any other woman who can commit the worst act possible and know that she will be able to plead insanity. While I do believe there are some mothers who truly are suffering from mental illness and I have witnessed mental illness first hand, I also think there are some that are just cold blooded killers and should be held accountable.
While we all know the most famous cases and names of the mothers who killed their children I was surprised to read so many names that I never heard of.
- DEBRA JENNER- STABBED 3 YR OLD DAUGHTER MORE THAN 70 TIMES.
- PATRICIA BLACKMON - MURDERED 2YR OLD ADOPTED SON
- KENISHA BERRY- COVERED 4DAY OLD SON IN DUCT TAPE RESULTING IN DEATH
- DEBRA JEAN MILKE- MURDERED 4 YEAR OLD SON
- DORA LUZ DURENROSTRO- MURDERED HER 4 AND 9YR OLD DAUGHTERS AND 8YR OLD SON
- CARO SOCCORRO- MURDERED HER 5,8, AND 11 YR OLD SONS
- SUSAN EUBANKS- MURDERED HER 4,6,7,AND 14 YR OLD SONS
- CAROLINE YOUNG - MURDERED HER 4YR OLD GRAND DAUGHTER AND 6 YR OLD GRAND SON
- ROBIN LEE ROW- MURDERED HER 8YR OLD DAUGHTER AND 10 YR OLD SON
- MICHIELLE SUE THARP- MURDERED HER 7YR OLD DAUGHTER
- FRANCES ELAINE NEWTON- MURDERED HER 7YR OLD SON AND 2YR OLD DAUGHTER
- DARLIE LYNN ROUTIER- MURDERED HER 5YR OLD SON
Though I have never heard the names of these women or their children I cannot help but feel sad and wonder how many more names are out there that are just like them and just like Caylee Anthony? While the studies are informative, I still don’t think any reason cited is enough to justify these children dying at the hands of their mothers.
halfpint42592
I think because typically most juries don’t convict could be the problem mothers/fathers who kill their own is the worse kind of human being, if given the chance what would they do someone not related. Stop feeling pity for the murders and stay by the victim send them to prison, period there is NO EXCUSE FOR MURDERING CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!
Laura: I believe the fact that they never harm anyone but their own is cause for the worst punishment allowed…
Casey, was perfectly normal when she killed her beautiful helpless baby Caylee…Because right after Casey killed her baby daughter caylee, who is now in heaven…Casey, went out to parties and made macaroni dinner for her boyfriend Tony Lazzaro…Then Casey went out shopping and stealing and having fun, and didn’t have a care in the world. Until her mother Cindy tracked her down..Casey Anthony was totally normal….
I couldn’t agree with you more Chuck. I think the whole summation of because a mother kills her child she is mentally ill is nothing more than a way to sugar coat the fact that some mothers should never be mothers. Casey Anthony is perfectly sane…
I think woman who kill their own children have not bonded at birth with them. There is some kind of detachment towrd the baby just like Casey had with Caylee.
Diana: I agree that there is no bond and especially mor so after hearing that Cindy was handed Caylee the moment she was born not her mother…
whoa, half pint,, I have nothing to add, I just am so thankfull you wrote these things… It sure is something to think about… mothers DO kill their children… It is not just men that kill.. thank you half pint….we as a society, have alot to learn about these things….
thank you for your post and work that went into this research.
Remember Andrea Yates? They declared her mentally ill but still she is a cold blooded killer. Even mentally ill people can seek out help (husband’s, parents, etc). The mentally ill get a bum rap. It truly a self-centered individual, mother or father, who do not have a shred of humanity of thoughtfulness towards to another human being, even their own child, would kill. I also believes from a God complex people have.
typo – I believe it stems from a God complex. Toxic religion run rampant in our society.
two things,, the last name that you mentioned above, darlie routie.. didnt she kill both of her sons??? Somehow, thats what I thought anyway….
I sort of disagree with the “these mothers did not bond” theory, because, most of us humans are only “bonded ” to a few people in our lives, and yet,we never kill anyone… It sure is a mystery, and I appreciate all of your research into this subject.
Yes. Darlie Routier stabbed both of her little boys to death and then cut her own throat (slightly) to make it look like an intruder did it.
YAA Adding this to my bookmarks. Thank You
I believe that these women aren’t sick……their cold hearted murderers. I am a mother of a 2 yr old myself and i wouldn’t think of harming my child. She is my pride and joy. No matter how much she disobeys me and gets me upset murdering her wouldn’t even be in the back of my mind. If these women plan on killing their children then dont even have them. They are the most innocent beings in the world and all they want is love and nurturing. Women are no different then men…if men murder their children they are murderers..not sick…..and if women murder their children they they are also murderers….not sick. They need to go to jail for life without parole and or get the death penalty. You take a life you give your life.
do not never kill no little child because they don’t hurt nobody
I think we should be careful here because a lot of these comments are extremely judgmental. The fact we have to face is that this kind of tragedy does happen. It happened in the past it happened in the present and it will happen in the future.
I honestly don’t believe that putting these women in prison is doing anyone any good. There is over crowding in our prison systems and usually after committing this act the women don’t usually lash out at others.
I am surprised by the comments of some mothers here. I would think after having a child and the drastic physical and emotional changes women go through would be a common thread through motherhood.
But time and time again feelings of regret, depression, anxiety, resentment and helplessness seemed to be swept under the carpet and people still push the
‘motherhood is the best thing in life’ spiel down our throats.
In no way do I offer this up as an excuse. but it is certainly is a hindrance for women who know they need to get help. They feel judged, guilt and abandoned. Usually these are women who have no support from family or friends.
I am not a mother myself but I can not judge them as easily as people are doing here. I guess being in the psychological field I try to understand what is going on in their heads then the act itself.
You don’t have to have bipolar, paranoid schizophrenia, or be a sociopath or a psychopath to kill your own children. Mother’s who kill their own children are in a distinct class for their own.
The sad thing is most of these tragedies could have been prevented if these women were given the help they desperately needed.
Tania: I can’t speak for all of the commenters here but I will speak for myself. Yes, these comments are indeed judgemental. I am a mother and I believe that because you have yet to have children perhaps it is easier for you to look at this through your psychological degreee. I however, am looking at this through my own degree:LIFE and MOTHERHOOD.
To say that you are surprised by the comments of the mothers because you believe that the drastic physical and emoitional changes women go through would be a common thread for all mothers to bond through is somewhat of an insult. I along with many other mothers went throughthe physical and emotional changes and yet I never felt it necessary to kill my child because no matter how my body changed or how sleep deprived I was I still feel that being a mother is my greatest accomplishment in life. Do I sympathize with these women? Not all of them. The ones who cried out for help time and again and who were truly mentally ill, altough I wouln’t call it sympathy I do feel for them. The ones like Casey Anthony, Susan Smith etc., I absolutely have no sympathy for.
I never said there had to be a mental disorder in order to kill your own children, I simply researched a topic and gave the findings.
Hello!
Thank you for your reply. I am sorry if you were insulted by my comment about the common thread through motherhood. I have friends who are mothers and have probably spoken to hundreds of mothers about what it is like to have children.
What I did find was that there was an obvious change physically and emotionally. Maybe my statement was too general and I apologies for that. I should have included the ranges. Most women do change some more than others this of course relates to how they cope with motherhood as well.
As I stated before I do not in any shape or form offer this up as an excuse. Only a way to understand why. Of course not all Mothers have urges to harm their children. The majority don’t and the small portion who do, don’t carry out the act.
So we are talking about a very small percent that do. I know the explanations I am about to offer sound petty and I do agree with you some women deserve no sympathy at all but others do deserve our empathy.
A lot of women I have spoken to talk about how they seem to loose themselves or their identity when they devote all their time and effort for their kids and then they feel guilty about feeling that way. I know I am only scratching the surface but there is a lot more going on than meets eye. Because this has been happening for centuries and it is still happening now. So I am guessing we are missing something here. I praise mothers because I believe they have the hardest job in the world.
They seem to be so critical of themselves and each other. I myself have thought many times do I really want to be a mother. I know it is not all flowers and rainbows and believe me when I tell you a lot of girls my age are deluded when it comes to motherhood thinking that it will be some kind of fairy tale.
I think all of this adds up. Unrealistic expectations, loss of identity, maybe you had to give up a career you loved, partner not helping, exhaustion, a propensity towards anxiety, depression even psychosis. This all adds up. So that small percent of women who do fall under this category are at high risk.
This does not in any way mean that they will. It will mean that they probably need help. This is where I try to connect the dots. I find a lot of the women I speak to try to hide the fact they are struggling. They believe that motherhood is perceived in a certain way and they would be judged negatively. So they keep those thoughts hidden and they don’t get help.
That is the part I have concern with when they don’t reach out for help and some of the extremely judgmental comments here prove that point why. I know you are not one of them. This does not apply to you. As I said before I do not offer this up as an excuse. Only as a reason to understand why – as I said before this has been happening for centuries. Never at any point did I mean to offend.
Oh no worries I am very rarely offended
My issue is not those mothers that truly need help. Yes as mothers we do lose our own identity and there are times you want to get in the car and keep driving and never come back. It is at those points that many of us as mothers differ. I had a three year span where it was my job to keep it all together. My husband had a heartattack at the age of 34, crashed on the table and thankfully was revived. My mother in law was diagnosed with stage four colon cancer and for two years I ran both homes until the time of her death and then inheritited my father inlaw for the next year to take care of. Shortly after my mother inlaw died my son developed a terrile anxiety and for one year it was absolute hell in our house day and night. He saw therapists, psychologists and so on and the only thing they wanted to do was medicate him to a state of no more than existing. Would this have been easier? Absolutely, but not at all what was right. I had my breaking moment and knew I had to take care of me for a bit. I called my husband in hysterical sobs on the way to work one morning and told him I wanted to not come home, that I was so tired, felt like I was going to have a nervous breakdown and just wanted to get on a plane and go somewhere where nobody needed me for a while. He was petrified to say the least. Yet what I had to learn from that moment was that he too was as willing and able as I to help. He as a man and as a man who was raised in a home of all boys whose mother did anything and everything, didn’t get that I couldn’t do it alone. He just figured it was my job. I did come home, to a hot bath, clean house, warm meal, fresh sheets and was told to go to my bed and sleep, watch tv or whatever. I did just that for three days and was able to rejuvinate my mind and body.
It is so important as a woman, mother and wife to take that time. I have learned that it is not selfish for us to say I need a break, I need help. Unfortuntately there are alot of women out there who are unable to seek help or do not have anyone willing to help.
I am so glad to see someone willing to look the real truth in the face about mothers in general and especially those who murder their own. Until society is willing to take a good hard look at mothers who kill and do other violent crimes against others.. including their children… we will remain ignorant and under the false assumptions that mothers/women are good and fathers/men are simply the bad ones. We have been brainwashed into believing this untruth for decades and the feminists still tout it as they have always conveyed the man has no worth anyway and the woman is the much more worthy one. Such a nauseating myth.
How many times have we seen mothers that look their children as their possession only? To hear them tell it the father is so unimportant. He is deemed insignificant and pushed aside by the mother has having no value when it comes to the children. That is the myth she gets herself to believe. And that load of bull convinces them they are right. Yet we see more and more children opting to live with their fathers when a divorce occurs.
As a mother myself I find it narcissistic and grandiose traits when the mother considers herself more worthy than anyone. It isn’t the children that puts her up on that pedestal…….it is the mother. I see dysfunctional mothers doing it too and pretend they are the ones that their children love the most. Sickening. They truly look at their children as their possessions only which I find horrifying and it causes so much pressure on these children who are afraid to let the mother know they love their father just as much.
Males have nothing on females. In fact I find when mothers murder often times the crime is heinous, including gross neglect, starvation, extreme abuse, and torture. even selling their children to pedophiles for a buck before the child is finally killed by the mother’s mistreatment.
And statistics show that women are the most likely group to be found Not Guilty or convicted of lesser charges when a male with the same charge is giving a much weighter sentence……..including LWOP and death for the same like crime. So society sends the message loud and clear that it is OK for a mother to kill her own children and she will not be punished the same as it would have been if the father killed them. Murdered children seem to become less worthy of justice if their taker of life is their mothers. Reprehensible.
I hope that this time Caylee will get true justice even though she was murdered by Casey Anthony. She deserves the death penalty for her premeditated crime.
Frankly, I get so sick and tired of seeing the immediate excuses when a mother kills her own children. Automatically without any substantiation it is proclaimed she must be ill and unwarranted sympathy given. Women who murder their children are rarely insane but yet that fact seems to be tossed aside. Your list that you have posted shows many of those motives are the same motives when fathers kill their children. So how are mothers who murder different? They aren’t!
It is a slap in the face to the children who lost their lives. It is also a slap in the face to the millions of single mothers out there who do not abuse or murder their children. Not having a support group doesn’t turn you into a cold blooded murderer of your own children. If that was remotely true we would have an epidemic due to single parents who are raising their children alone. So that is just another lame excuse given to excuse the woman.
In my opinion, Casey Anthony, resented Caylee and she hated her mother with a passion and resented the love the grandmother had for the child. So she destroyed what actually meant nothing to her but a burden to bring her own mother to her knees. A wretched evil woman whom I refuse to call a mother. Caylee was nothing but a pawn to Casey Anthony. Premeditated murder done out of selfishness, anger and revenge. Unforgivable.
Hi Dallas:
Very well written and just as I have expressed, you have also shown how children are not valued by some mothers but used as bargaining tools. As the trial of Casey Anthony has continued I shake my head most days, but that is another post entirely.
Dallas:
Wonderful post! I couldn’t agree more! I look forward to many more of these from you, as I think you could offer a lot of insight to others. Thank you!
Thank you so much, Halfpint,
Do you know what I read in an article yesterday? There are two crimes that women commit as often as men do. What could they be? The answer is: 1) shoplifting. 2) Murder their own children.
What a horrible legacy to have. Society is fed so much misinformation it is mind boggling. Things we need to know are never revealed. Things that aren’t significant, are.
People need to ask themselves this question. If mothers are truly mentally ill then why do they turn their violence against their own children more than anyone else? If they murdered someone else’s child then they would be called sociopath killers and rightly so. So what makes it different when they murder their own even by society’s standards? Society and the justice system goes much easier on mothers who kill their own child or children and because of that unreasonable view children are going to be devalued over and over again if their mothers murdered them versus their fathers.
What is fascinating to me is why most look at children as belonging solely to the mother. How in the heck did that belief come to be? Since when are human beings ‘possessions?’
Every time a child is murdered by their mothers these words ring true. “I brought you into this world and I can take you out.” and even some in society say ‘yes, you can.’ How can that be acceptable? How can we support one group of children who were murdered by their fathers and not support the ones murdered by their mothers? And that is the brutal truth to what is happening in our society and has been for many decades. Children who are murdered by their mothers get less justice or no justice at all. That cant continue. We must stop this archaic illogical thinking. We must stop making every excuse in the book for a mom who brutally murders her child. We must stop thinking they must be mentally ill when the truth is less than 2% of them are.
Hi Dallas:
I too have read the results of in depth studies that have been conducted into this very subject. In my opinion, society has to find a way to make it explainable and almost acceptable for mothers to kill their own. Otherwise the horrifying truth would be too much to handle. Yet to me there is no explainable or acceptable reason. There are too many available options if a mother needs to rid herself of her own children. I have no sympathy for any of them, mentally ill or not. If mentally ill, they didn’t just become that way. There would be years of signs leading up to the act and therefore allowing the mentally ill to remain the care taker to these little ones is unacceptable. If a mother just finds her children to be a disturbance and interruption in her life there are many available options and therefore murdering them is just that MURDER.
To say that a child is a mothers possession and therefore she has the right to kill them if she pleases is a travesty. I think unfortunately men as the fathers get a bad rap for a few that have abandoned their children. However, I have met many men who have stepped up to the plate when a mother has left her children. I find no excuse acceptable irregardless of studies conducted, statistics and what have you that pardons a mother for being anything but a protector, nurturer, teacher and the one constant in a childs life. Children don’t ask to be brought into this world and if a woman makes a decision to do so, then you see it through.
Where did you hear that Cindy was handed Caylee at birth and not Casey? Is there any evidence to support that? If so, why hasn’t that information been made more public, I wonder? This is the first time I’ve ever heard that. If that was the case, then it is a terribly sad revelation. I would wonder who made that decision and why they made it. What a tragic decision to hand the newborn NOT to its own mother.
Thank you,
A concerned parent
Hi Doug:
Off of the top of my head I cannot give you that answer. You have to remember this has been going on for three years and in that time there have been thousands of documents, videos, and so on. I apologize for not having that information but I will look into it for you.
the case Im most facinated with is the diane downs case. I don’t know if you know who that is, but I’ll give you a hint. Diane Downs had three beautiful children, Christie 8 yr’s old, Cheryl 7 years old and danny 3 years old. On May 19th 1983 diane decided to take a drive with her three children down a country road in organ. She stopped the car while her children were suppose to be sleeping, she popped the trunk, got out the car and grabbed a 22 rugar from her trunk. She walked back to her car and shot her middle child, Cheryl while she was laying on the floor board, Cheryl opened the front door and fell out the car, she leaned over the back seat and shot her 3 year old son danny in the back, it missed his heart by an inch, and then she leaded over to the left side of the back seat and shot her 8 year old daughter christie twice and as she was shotting christie, she was screaming no mommy the whole time and yes she saw her mother shoot her sister and brother, after she got done with christie, she walked over to the passenger side of the car and shot cheryl again. In all she fired 5 shots, two in christie, two in cheryl and one in danny. Christie lost all filling on the left side of her body and all brain function the right side, she had to learn how to function on the right side of her brain, including talk. Danny was paralized from the waist down and cheryl died. Diane was shot in the forearm and said that a man had stopped her car and shot her and her children, but when she was driving to the hospital, she was only drive 3 to 5 miles per hour she wanted her children to die, but two survived. At first everyone believe diane’s story and she became known in the media as princess di. But christie finally got her voice back and they arrested diane downs for the murder of cheryl and the attempted murder of christie and danny. She got herself pregnant a 4th time thinking that the jury would find her not guilty bc of that simple reason. But Christie testified against her mother at the trial and she was found guilty and sent to prison for life, plus 65 years. She’s been up for parole many times, including this year and in 2009 and she was denied, because she still maintains that she didn’t shoot her children. Diane’s dad says that she is telling the truth, that a man did shoot diane’s children and that their was a man who confessed to it, but in my mind if thats the case then I believe that diane hired him to help her shoot her children and then she shot herself in the arm, because she needed to make it look real.
Hi Amy
Yes I am aware of Diane Downs and didn’t believe the story from the day she told it. No mother would ever only have a wound to the arm while the other three of her children were brutally attacked and two to the point of death. The mother would either die trying or kill the attacker, noting more nothing less. Diane Downs never expected her child to live and actually tried to turn the machines off while she was in the hospital. What I find amazing in these cases is time after time these women believe they are smarter than those who have worked these cases for years. Police knew from day one that something wasn’t right and while they couldn’t immediately prove it, it all comes out in the end.
Her father refusing to believe that his daughter murdered his grandchildren is not surprising at all. A parent in most cases cannot allow their mind to take them to that place and therefore they hang on to the story they are told. Just like The Anthony Grandparents, they needed to find every excuse plausible for every piece of evidence or they most likely would have had a nervous breakdown
Woman has over 99 satans thats why …….
Aziz:
I’m sorry but just not a good enough excuse for me
me their need to be a law to stop all women from even having kids becuse they will kill them the problom i see women sould get their tubes tide cant have kids at all
Marvin
While I welcome all opinions and discussions, yours is nothing but a ridiculous hateful statement and frankly sounds a bit disturbed. So I will ask you to see your way out and thank you for visiting. I think there are maybe other blogs that may be more geared toward your style of thinking
Since only 2-4% of mothers who kill their children are mentally ill, I believe the reasons are pretty much in line with why fathers kill their own.
For decades it has been an issue that even the psychiatrists/psychologists have shied away from. It is far easier for them to assume it is mostly done out of mental illness or prior abuse in their history but the truth is the facts don’t support those findings.
With very few mothers having mental illiness and with over 6 million females abused in this country yearly then it is only common sense if those were really the triggers we would have an epidemic of mothers who murder their children instead of the low number of about 400 who do it each year.
I think that Casey is a full blown narcissist and everything in her life is about her. Caylee was just seen as an extension of Casey, nothing more. So she felt entitled to do as she saw fit when it came to Caylee..even if that resulted in death. Caylee belonged to Casey and she could do whatever she wish to do with the child she ‘owned.’
Caylee was a great tool to be used when Casey need to manipulate someone but she was a burden to her when she had to care for her by herself. I think she drugged Caylee and put her in the trunk with the duct tape around her mouth so if she awoke she couldn’t cry out or scream. I do think the other strip of duct tape that was found at the scene was used to restrain Caylee’s hands.
The drugs, the tape and the trunk was Casey’s babysitter because
she really wanted to go to Tony’s and party like a single woman and
not like a true mother who would always have their child’s best interest at heart.
So why is Caylee dead? Imo, because she had a very self centered ‘mother’ who felt she was far more important than the little child that was a burden to her.